All Talk

Disclaimer: I will not tell anyone who this is about no matter how much you beg. I hope you will understand that I must be private about it.

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Today I had someone say something to me that was so hurtful. It brought tears to my eyes and made my stomach sick. I always wish that I was quicker with my responses back to people. It is probably better that I am not.

The Mean Confrontation:

How dare you say this to me? You think you know me. You have no idea. You see me for maybe 5 minutes a day. You only know what you see. How dare you judge me? How dare you say it to my face and not think it would hurt me? If you have a real problem with me, discuss it with me. Don't just slam me and laugh it off. It hurt. I am not laughing. You've said it to me in a different way before but today, you said it in front of someone else. I didn't look like the fool. You did.

The Personal Confrontation:

When I was a child, old ladies would say this comment to my family. It hurt. When you say this, it does not make me want to change. If anything, I will become more like what you dislike and felt the need to say. Why did you say this? Would you like to be treated like this? How would this make you feel? I almost cried on the way home. It made me feel like an awful person and mother.

The Six Year Old Response:

I am going to ignore her and be cold. I will carry this grudge for years and never be her real friend.

The High School Approach:

I will talk about this with her friends and hope that it gets back to her. I hope it makes her feel awful. She'll never say it again. Maybe.

The Blogger Approach:

Write about it until you feel better. Worry that she will read this. Get over it when you read the nice comments.