Thursday, April 30, 2009

Too Busy to Live

Eight weeks ago or so, one of my friends invited me to Panera for coffee and bagels. We had such a great time that we invited another friend. And thanks to Facebook, we soon started inviting everyone. We are there every Friday morning while our kids are in school. Some come every week and some come when they can. It is very eclectic group. Friends that I am getting to know, good friends and friends that I haven't seen in awhile.

When we first started planning our little coffees, I had to let go of my computer obsession and my list of things to do. I had usual plans for my Fridays and when I struggled with this, I knew that I needed to get out more. I had to step away from the computer and really talk to my friends.

Yesterday, one of our friends sent out an email wondering if we were all meeting at a wine bar like we planned last week. I didn't want to go. I love wine and being forced to sit in a cozy wine bar where I cannot have a glass is near torture. Plus I was tired and would rather sit and do absolutely nothing. But, I thought how much time I spend here in my house, how I need to connect and how I need to step away from the computer. So, as tired as I was, I sent back and email saying that I would go.

I am so glad that I went. Last night, I got no more than 5 hours of sleep. My youngest woke me up three times due to a fever he was fighting. And guess what? I had more energy today that I have in awhile. I felt energized just by connecting with friends and talking.

I am going to say yes more often, reach out more and spend more time with friends. I feel so much better when I do. And you know what? I am going to worry less about my inbox and how long it has been since I have written a post. Tomorrow is another Friday morning at Panera and I can't wait to see who shows up. And as always, it is an open invitation if you live nearby. We'd love to have you walk away from your computer and join us.


Jessica said...

I am the same way! I feel so much better when I've made time for a social life and connected with people! Have fun tomorrow!

OHmommy said...

I had no idea you guys have a Friday morning thing going on. I have been neglecting FB.

I need to get out more too. It's hard being the general contractors of your own remodel. Last night I was painting trim. Tonight it's the door.

I am going to host one grand BBQ as soon as this is over and you give birth. How about August? I'll save a bottle of vin just for you.

Anonymous said...

GOOD for you! Life is too short.

Having said that, it is sometimes easier to connect and spend valuable time with our laptop. Whether it be FB or blog posting or just random scouring of the 'net.

People - in real life - do something for the soul though ...

I vow with you ... to make more time in life for PEOPLE.

Have an amazing time tomorrow!

Managed Chaos said...

So glad you decided to go out! My college girlfriends and I try to get together once a month and it is always uplifting to my spirit when we do. It's been 14 yrs now and we're still goin stong.

Im2Sexy4MyVan said...

Amen sister.

My new mantra is to invest in PEOPLE.

Caring for my friends and family, spending time with them (especially when I don't think I have any to share). And not just when they are trouble and need help. "Just because moments."
It fuels me -- and apparently you too.

When I think about it, my favorite moments spent with you were all these kind of times you write about.

I missed both wine bar and coffee. So when is the next one?

Kel said...

What a wonderful idea...its great when a group of people can get together to enjoy a little face to face time.

Hope you have a wonderful weekend!!

Kat said...

That sounds like so much fun. I wish I had friends in the area, but they are all spread out pretty far. :(
I definitely need to get out more.

Krystyn said...

I agree completely. Just getting more time for yourself and connecting with your friends really helps.

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