Disclaimer: Dear Mother-in-law and Mom, I love getting together for brunch and dinner on Mother's Day. Please understand that I love our Mother's Day tradition. I am not talking about it, I am just saying.
Mother's Day really isn't Mother's Day. It's really grandma's day. My kids are still pretty small. They have mom's day at school the week prior to Mother's Day so they don't understand that Mother's Day is a real day. Also, I am with my children every day, all day except for nursery school a few times a week. I don't feel the need to bond with my children on this day. We bond every day, hours and hours a day. Every day is mother's day.
For Mom's special day, do we get the day off? Not really. We have to hurry around getting the kids dressed in pants without holes and in a "handsome" shirts. We try to comb their hair and make sure they look presentable. We search for their shoes and socks. We rush around wrapping gifts and finding cards. Some years, we are running to the store to buy the card that we lost somewhere in our house.
On MY mother's day, we go to a very nice brunch with the whole in-law clan. I honestly
enjoy the get together. My husband takes over with the kids and I enjoy relaxing and talking with the family. Afterwards, we say goodbye and head on down to my hometown, Alliance. We usually get their first and by the time my sister arrives with her children, we are ready to leave. But, we have to stick it out. We also have to suddenly become hungry and eat at my parents house. We usually stuff ourselves at the brunch so it is impossible to be hungry for an early dinner at my parents. By the end of this visit, the kids are cranky and ready to go home. So are we.
In the end, I don't get any special time to myself on Mother's Day. It is more stressful than a normal day. It is up there with holidays such as Thanksgiving or Easter. Don't get me wrong. I am so lucky that I have family that I have to visit on this holiday. It is just that the reality of the day clashes with a romantic special day I have in my mind.
My dream day off:
I sleep in until I can't sleep any more. The kids are away and I can get a shower alone. I then get ready to go to Ladies & Gentleman in Lyndhurst for a facial and massage. Afterwards, I go shopping without any guilt and find the perfect outfit. I meet some friends for an early dinner at the Cheesecake Factory. We then go to see a chic flick. (Now remember, I am pregnant. If I wasn't, the evening would include dancing and lots of wine!)
How would you spend the day if you could be completely honest? Would you spend it with your kids or do you need some time off to yourself? We all need different things at different stages of our lives. Happy Mother's Day! I am sending you warm wishes for a wonderful Mother's Day. Whatever that entails.
The Open Road
4 years ago